|Lori and family enjoying Indiana in the fall|
My name is Lori. I am 30 years old and have two small children. My first-born is a ‘new’ two-year-old boy, Max, who loves being a big brother. The baby of our family is a little lady named Halle (rhymes with ‘Sally’). The two are young, but already good pals and I enjoy seeing them interact and look forward to them growing up together.
Prior to Halle’s birth, I was working for an insurance company, yearning to be at home with my young son. My husband John and I vowed (before we decided to have another child) that we would do whatever we could to make sure I stayed at home once a second baby joined our family. Both of us were so lucky as to have had mothers and grandmothers who were home with us and we very much wanted to be able to do the same.
So here I am now that Halle is here, staying at home, freelance writing and juggling a household with two small children (lucky enough to have a husband who helps a lot). Probably just like many of you.
So, as I said, staying at home has been an adjustment. I am so very thankful to be here with the kids day in and day out. That’s just it; I am with them day in and day out. This is a big change from working outside of the home 32 hours per week. Please don’t get me wrong, being at home and seeing my children learn and grow and change is something I will forever be thankful for. I have always wanted to be a mother and always wanted to be at home with my children. However, a struggle right now is finding a good balance between the children, work and personal time. Having some time to yourself, even if it for 20 minutes is a necessity for your health.
As a new mom to two under the age of 2, I have had some doubts about my parenting skills. Suddenly I have more children than laps, and two ‘babies’ who very much need me. But I feel that everyday, my confidence grows and I become more at ease. Being a parent is not necessarily something you can be taught. You just learn as you go along.
More than anything, I am learning you just have to relax. Kids will be kids. They aren’t going to behave perfectly. They aren’t going to listen all of the time. There may be times when they are both crying, but it will all be okay. Other people may judge you or give you advice you don’t care to hear. Just roll with the punches.
So for all of you mommies out there- whether you have one small children, or grown children- let's continue to encourage one another. We are all allies in this fun world of mommy-hood. The job of a mommy- whether you work outside of the home or not- is far from a cakewalk! But I can’t think of anything more rewarding.
You can contact Lori by sending an email to firstname.lastname@example.org.
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